The main reason for this, underneath all my protective layers, I am mush. I don't want to give the wrong impression, and can do unwittingly all the time (especially those subject to 42 days).
Resolution for the next few weeks - freely give honest and encouraging compliments.
The compliments resolution is working already! I've had one message from Quiet boy stating he hoped I didn't think he was fishing for compliments... Can I really be that cold?!